It’s in challenging times such as these that we can get caught up in a cycle of fear and anxiety over what our future might look like. Everything from worrying about our health, the health of loved ones, our jobs, the state of the economy…the list goes on.
Yes, life is uncertain! But the reality is that life is always uncertain. Our belief that we can control what goes on around us on a daily basis is nothing more than an illusion. In reality, there are so many possibilities of what could happen at any given moment, that our future is no more difficult to predict today than it was a week ago, or a month ago.
The thing is, when we start to acknowledge our lack of control, our minds go into overdrive and our imagination takes over. Our mind literally starts to fill in the gaps of what lies ahead. And it typically goes to the worst case scenario.
But our thoughts are not REAL. Read that again! They are simply the pictures we have in our heads. So feeling anxious or out of control is being scared of a thought, not a reality. Until we can see it, feel it, hear it, taste it or touch out, our imagination will never be real.
So, if we can remain calm in the face of adversity, and don’t allow our imaginations to steal the show, we can find a solution to any problem. To assist you to do this, I have made available a complimentary hypnotic recording that focuses on releasing control, finding inner peace, and boosting immunity.
The audio is a little under 20 minutes and contains powerful hypnotic suggestions. For best results you need to be in a quiet place free from interruptions. The recording is best listened to at night before falling asleep. Even if you fall asleep as it plays, your subconscious will be listening!
*Disclaimer. As with all hypnosis recordings please DO NOT listen while you are driving or operating heavy equipment or machinery.Please also DO NOT listen to this recording if you suffer from a psychiatric condition, psychological condition or epilepsy.
Please click on the link below to access the audio file.
Everything in life starts with ‘self’. This is the innermost circle, and the centre of all things. So it stands to reason that on the road to personal and career success, the journey must start with you. So what really makes you, you?
To understand this at a really simple level, consider that we are all made up of a number of layers, just like an onion. And while there are many layers, lets focus on the ones that have the biggest impact on behaviour. After all, it’s behaviour that is the key driver for success. So behaviour is determined by our needs, values, experiences and beliefs. Let’s break that down:
Needs– physical and emotional requirements for us to live a healthy life.
Values– what we determine as being most important in life and which guide our motivations and actions.
Experiences– the things that happen to us and how we interpret them
Beliefs – what we determined to be true based on the meaning we give our experiences. These can be either ‘limiting’ (stop us from doing something) or ‘empowering’ (propel us to do something).
When we take time to understand these layers we can better identify and connect to our own internal state. It is tuning into our needs, values, experiences and beliefs that gives us an understanding of why we do what we do (our behaviours) and start to challenge ourselves to do things differently and better (new habits).
Self-awareness allows us to view a situation or experience objectively rather than critically and to challenge our thinking around self-limiting beliefs. When we learn to see things from a different perspective and reframe our experiences, we can face challenges more easily and develop improved relationships with self and others. Self-awareness facilitates an ability to accept opinions, feedback and criticism from others without being negatively affected by it.
It invites a growth mindset as opposed to a fixed mindset, where we can embrace failure, engage in continuous learning, and continue to develop talent over a lifetime. Rather than being paralyzed by uncertainty, we can think outside the box, and act confidently to remove obstacles that get in our way. Our judgment is sound and rooted in logic, rather than clouded by emotional reaction.
So, the big question is, how do we do it? Following are some simple tips:
1. Identify your needs – write down the emotional and physical things that you require to function at your best and ensure you are meeting as many of them as possible. While it’s not realistic to have all of our needs met all of the time, it is important to understand what they are so we can direct our energies towards having them in place. To find out more about the basics of human needs, take a look at Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs here.
2. Identify your values – having an appreciation of what motivates you into action is really important. Your values point to the things that you have identified as being most important in life, and any decision you make or action you take is based on an underlying value. For further insights into what constitutes a value and what resonates for you, take a look at the list developed by Scott Jeffrey here.
3. Get to know your emotional triggers – these come from our experiences and the meaning that we attach to those experiences. For example, consider a child that answers a question incorrectly at school, or is asked to read aloud and falters over a sentence, who forms a belief that they are dumb. As an adult, this individual may be emotionally triggered in the workplace by any feedback that suggests they are lacking in a skill or area of knowledge.
4. Ask for feedback and take it on board – it’s important to seek feedback in the context of personal growth and not take it as an insult. Remember that without development, your weaknesses can impact future potential and success. So use it as an improvement opportunity and choose to be empowered by it.
5. Practice self-discipline – if you want to rein in the behaviours and tasks that take you off track and interfere with achieving your goals, you need to practice some self-discipline. Self-discipline keeps you focused on what you believe matters, helping to shape positive habits that move you in the direction of your goals.
6. Meditate – mediation is a great way to improve awareness in the moment. It doesn’t always need to involve a yoga mat, guided relaxation apps, or a 30-minute lie down. Meditation can be as simple as focused deep breathing, even if only for a few seconds. You can ask yourself questions in this space to get clarity around any issues or obstacles that have presented themselves.
7. Consider doing a behavioural profile – these are a great way to gain immediate and accurate insights into what drives your behaviour – what makes you who you are, the environments that suit you, how you communicate, what energises you and what causes you stress. There are a number of free profiles online or several paid options if you want to check out DiSC, Myers Briggs or True Colors.
Remember that self-awareness is key to personal growth and success. With accurate information regarding strengths and weaknesses, motivation, behaviour style, and learning preferences, you are free to ‘get out of your own way’ and achieve everything you want to achieve – be it business or personal!
If you want to know more about my mindset and self-awareness coaching please get in touch. I would love to help!