Six Unhelpful Habits to Ditch to Transform Your Life
The path to self-enlightenment and happiness is not paved with stardust and lined with unicorns. Nor is it a journey we can take our family, friends, or boss on, hoping that if we can change their behaviour then everything else will magically fall into pace.  This is one road we need to travel alone if we really want to reap the rewards of a more purposeful and abundant life. It’s time to ditch the habits that are dragging us down, and design the life that makes us want to jump out of bed in the morning.

  1. Avoid playing the blame game. The reality of the human experience is that we get to experience the highs, the lows and everything in between. When things are going well we accept them more easily, but when times get tough it’s human nature to look for causes and seek an explanation for our circumstances. Often this involves looking to people, places or events on which to allocate blame. The problem is that if we are always looking to external forces as the cause of our situation, we give away our power over our experiences. To live in an empowered state we need to take responsibility for how we act and react in any situation. We always have a choice and we are ‘response able‘.

  2. Change the language of the voice in your head. Our mind will only ever respond to two things – the words we say to ourselves and the images we create in our heads. This determines our reality so we need to make sure they’re worth watching and listening to.  We need to tell our minds exactly what we want in very specific and positive terms. The mind is wired to work in the affirmative, so if we say I DON’T want something, the mind interprets this as I WANT that same thing. For example, “I don’t want to be lonely” becomes “I want to be lonely” or “I don’t want to be poor” becomes “I want to be poor’. Negative words are almost imperceptible to the mind, so we need to frame our dialogue in the positive.  Try saying “I have a wonderful circle of friends”, or “I have everything I need.”

  3. Embrace an abundance mindset. To believe in abundance is to believe that there is plenty of everything – resources, love, relationships, wealth, opportunity etc.  An abundance mindset is a direct result of believing that we absolutely deserve everything we desire – that we deserve to be here exactly as we are, perfectly imperfect and totally worthy of love, success and happiness. So turn up the dial on your self-worth and invite abundance into your life. When you lock on to what you already have, you also attract more of it.

  4. Let toxic people go. Remember that our vibe attracts our tribe and vice versa. Any emotion, be it positive and upbeat such as happiness or enthusiasm; as well as negative emotions such as anger and fear, are easily passed from one party to another, without either consciously realising it. This means that our happiness is directly related to that of our friends, our family, anyone in our inner circle. The same can be said for negative emotions, which are as toxic as second hand smoke. We need to be careful what energy we are surrounding ourselves with and whether this energy serves or depletes us. Surround yourself with people who instil confidence and boost self-esteem.

  5. Stop Reliving Your Failures.  Move on from challenges and obstacles and simply embrace them as a learning opportunity. Reliving the past doesn’t give us the power to change it, so we need to move on. This quote from JK Rowling points to the very necessity of failure “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case you fail by default.

  6. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others. No matter who you are, how successful you are, how intelligent or attractive you are, or how wealthy you are, there will always be someone who has more.  Comparing yourself to others will drain you physically and emotionally, over and over again.  ‘Comparison is the thief of joy’, and an artful one at that. Remember that nobody is you, exactly like you, and that is your true power.


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